Modern weddings come with their own set of expectations, and being a stellar guest means more than just showing up on time. Here’s your guide to navigating contemporary wedding etiquette with grace, integrity and style.
RSVP promptly – and don’t challenge the invite!
First things first, respect the RSVP. Couples need to finalise numbers for catering, seating, and more, so respond as soon as you receive the invitation. If you’re given a plus-one, only bring a guest if they’re genuinely close to you and comfortable with the couple. If not, flying solo is tres chic (and who knows, perhaps you’ll meet your own someone special?!).
Dress to impress, thoughtfully.
Fashion plays a big role in weddings, but it’s essential to honour any dress codes mentioned. If the invitation specifies black tie, cocktail attire, or coastal chic, make sure to comply. Avoid wearing white unless explicitly instructed, and consider the couple – are they more traditional and formal in the way they present themselves? Perhaps leave the ultra-sheer but stunning sheath for the next wedding. We’re not saying don’t infuse your personality and style into your outfit – just be intentionally mindful of what the day represents.
Ceremony vibes.
For many couples, the ceremony is a special moment. As well as nerves, it’s the first time they see their guests, their styling, and sometimes, their loved one. It can feel quite pressure-laden until the ceremony has commenced.
As a guest, do your bit to honour the importance of the ceremony. Arrive early to avoid any disruption, turn off your phone, and resist the urge to take photos unless instructed otherwise. Take a seat if invited, throw your petals high over the couple and don’t hold back your applause if appropriate.
Gift giving: considered and timely.
While gifts are traditional, the emphasis should be on thoughtfulness rather than extravagance. Check the couple’s registry or wishing well instructions if they have them, but if you choose something off-list, ensure it’s something meaningful and useful. If you can’t attend the wedding, sending a gift or a heartfelt card is a lovely gesture.
Respect the couple’s wishes.
Whilst we love someone who rebels against the norm, in the case of someone’s wedding, it’s often not the time or place. Couples often have specific wishes for their big day, from unplugged ceremonies to social media instructions, children in attendance and invitations to join in photos. Honour their requests to make their day as smooth and enjoyable as possible.
RSVP promptly – and don’t challenge the invite!
First things first, respect the RSVP. Couples need to finalise numbers for catering, seating, and more, so respond as soon as you receive the invitation. If you’re given a plus-one, only bring a guest if they’re genuinely close to you and comfortable with the couple. If not, flying solo is tres chic (and who knows, perhaps you’ll meet your own someone special?!).
Dress to impress, thoughtfully.
Fashion plays a big role in weddings, but it’s essential to honour any dress codes mentioned. If the invitation specifies black tie, cocktail attire, or coastal chic, make sure to comply. Avoid wearing white unless explicitly instructed, and consider the couple – are they more traditional and formal in the way they present themselves? Perhaps leave the ultra-sheer but stunning sheath for the next wedding. We’re not saying don’t infuse your personality and style into your outfit – just be intentionally mindful of what the day represents.
Ceremony vibes.
For many couples, the ceremony is a special moment. As well as nerves, it’s the first time they see their guests, their styling, and sometimes, their loved one. It can feel quite pressure-laden until the ceremony has commenced.
As a guest, do your bit to honour the importance of the ceremony. Arrive early to avoid any disruption, turn off your phone, and resist the urge to take photos unless instructed otherwise. Take a seat if invited, throw your petals high over the couple and don’t hold back your applause if appropriate.
Gift giving: considered and timely.
While gifts are traditional, the emphasis should be on thoughtfulness rather than extravagance. Check the couple’s registry or wishing well instructions if they have them, but if you choose something off-list, ensure it’s something meaningful and useful. If you can’t attend the wedding, sending a gift or a heartfelt card is a lovely gesture.
Respect the couple’s wishes.
Whilst we love someone who rebels against the norm, in the case of someone’s wedding, it’s often not the time or place. Couples often have specific wishes for their big day, from unplugged ceremonies to social media instructions, children in attendance and invitations to join in photos. Honour their requests to make their day as smooth and enjoyable as possible.